Closing the Empathy Gap: Understanding Cognitive Biases and Human Connection

The Biased Brain Podcast with Owen Hawthorne

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Understanding the Empathy Gap: Why We Sometimes Miss the Mark on Other People’s Feelings

Hey, have you ever noticed how sometimes we just can’t fully get what someone else is feeling, especially when they’re going through something really tough or completely different from what we’re experiencing? Like, you might think, “How could they be so upset over that?” or, “I totally would have handled it differently.” That, right there, is what psychologists call the empathy gap, and it’s actually connected to some pretty interesting quirks in our brain’s wiring.

So, here’s the deal: our brains are brilliant, but they're also a bit biased. These cognitive biases—basically, the mental shortcuts our mind takes— mess with how we understand other people’s emotions. It’s not that we don’t care, but sometimes our biased brain makes it harder to truly step into someone else’s shoes.

When we talk about the empathy gap, what we’re really referring to is the way our current emotional or physical state limits our ability to imagine how someone else feels, especially if their state is very different from ours. For example:

• If you’re calm and relaxed, it can be tough to accurately imagine how you’d feel if you were angry or in pain.
• Or if you’re feeling scared and anxious, it’s hard to picture how someone else might feel peaceful or confident.

This gap happens because of a bunch of cognitive biases at work. One big player here is the “hot-cold empathy gap,” where “hot” refers to being in a heightened emotional state and “cold” is when you're calm. When people are in a cold state, they underestimate how much a hot state will affect their thinking and behavior—and vice versa.

This has some pretty big implications, especially when it comes to bias in decision making. For example, if you’re calm and advising a friend who’s really upset, you might suggest solutions that seem logical but don’t actually feel helpful from their "hot" emotional standpoint. On the flip side, when you’re overwhelmed with strong feelings, it's hard to remember how you might feel later once things cool down, often leading to decisions or judgments you might regret.

Understanding this empathy gap can help us practice better critical thinking and biases awareness. When you’re aware that your mind might be underestimating someone else’s feelings just because you’re in a different emotional state, you can step back and remind yourself to slow down, ask questions, and really listen. It’s like giving your understanding some space to grow beyond your immediate feelings.

This also ties into broader concepts of human cognition—how we process, interpret, and remember information. Our brains are constantly filtering information, sometimes inaccurately, and that’s necessary to survive but also means we miss subtle and important things about others’ experiences. Appreciating these limits doesn’t make you less empathetic, but actually more tuned-in and patient as you interact with others.

If you’re curious about why our brains play these tricks on us and how to spot and overcome these mental blind spots, there’s an excellent resource you might want to check out: the book, The Biased Brain by Bo Bennett, PhD. It’s packed with insights on understanding cognitive biases and how these automatic mental tendencies shape our everyday decisions and feelings.

What I love about it is how it breaks down complex psychology into easy-to-grasp ideas and gives you practical tips on improving your awareness and approach to dealing with bias in your thinking. In a world filled with so much noise, learning about how our own minds trick us can really change how we relate to ourselves and others.

So, next time you find yourself puzzled by someone else’s emotional response, remember—your brain might just be nudging you into an empathy gap. Allow yourself some grace, keep the curiosity alive, and maybe even consult some expert reads to sharpen your awareness. Explore the book and unravel the secrets of your mind today!

Thanks for hanging out and learning a bit about that tricky little empathy gap and how it relates to cognitive biases. Hopefully, it gives you a fresh lens for understanding why sometimes, despite our best intentions, understanding other people’s emotions can be so challenging.

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